A favourite of mine - Roleplay - Demure dress code - Religious

Here are a few words to get your head around with regards to my dress code preference:

Demure, modest, conservative, virtuous, prim & proper.

Less nudeness is more exciting, for me.

When I say preference, this doesn’t mean it’s the only dress code I appreciate. It’s my preference.

The article below is mainly about how the lady must dress for me. However, I do know there are many women out there who like a man in proper suit or uniform as well.

Dress code at roleplay. I’m sure it’s important for most or all of us. I may make some generalisations, but that is for ease of writing rather than dismissing. BDSM for a lot of people is leather, latex, rubber. Then, for our friends in the vanilla world, there are the naughty outfits which are especially popular around Halloween. Maybe, you are a more adventurous vanilla person and you have a few “naughty” outfits. I don’t need to list those; we all know them.

I’m not a fan of “naughty” outfits that are popular for fancy dress parties or Halloween. They have a place, just rarely with me. When I have my submissive dress as a schoolgirl, it’s a real schoolgirl outfit. Not a naughty one. This is the same for teacher, librarian or any other persona you can think off.

For the record, I am not dismissing or judging what people like. We are all unique.

Let’s define roleplay in this article’s context. This is a fully dressed roleplay. It’s a part of my BDSM life, but it’s not the part where the submissive is fully naked, dressed revealing or just some lingerie and heels. There is no St Andrews Cross, slings etc involved. There will be spanking, handcuffs. There may be knives, guns or other fear instilling items used. Canes, paddles rarely a whip. It’s more mental/psychological than physical. There will be more humiliation than physical pain.

Then, silk/satin seems especially popular, according to the porn movies, with golden shower participants. Is this true? Maybe it is because silk/satin reacts extremely well to getting wet. Maybe it’s because Germans have a thing for silk/satin. From experience, they do. What’s also interesting, that German women in general seem to like a prim & proper outfit.

People with a uniform fetish (yes me) will recognize this. Both male and female wearing a uniform are properly dressed. Yes, there are people with a preference for a more work-like uniform, I’m talking about the ceremonial outfits. This links back to business dress for men and women. Suit, tie, scarf etc.

Now let’s get down to business. My all-time favourite. Religious roleplay. Remember, naughty nun doesn’t do it for me. Actually, a real nun outfit wouldn’t do it for me either. I think, but I’ve not tried that.

What is my interpretation of a demure, modest, conservative, virtuous, prim & proper outfit? Yours may well vary, there are no rules.

·      Skirt or dress length never above the knee. Preferably pleated. However, other people do like a pencil skirt which for me would be business dress, so office play

·      Dress or shirt/blouse always with a collar and buttoned up. Never see through, never too tight

·      A jumper dress or pinafore are acceptable if it has a blouse/shirt under it

·      Shirt/blouse always with long sleeves. No button-down shirts/blouses

·      A dress that has a collar but no buttons, preferably contrast colour collar and cuffs.

·      Shoes with a heel not higher 3.5 centimeters (1.5 inches) to 4.75 centimeters (1.75 inches) – also called a kitten heel. Brogues, penny loafers

·      Tights in a modest colour. Nothing frivolous

·      Correct underwear, so no sexy, lacy nothings

·      Hair, when short preferably a bob line. When long, always in a bun or pony tail

·      Accessories:

o   Hat, glasses, scarf, brooch, pearl necklace, gloves.

The above links back to, what could be called, a prim & proper dress code. The only places on the Internet I know has an abundance of pictures of ladies wearing prim & proper outfits is Pinterest and to a lesser extend Tumblr.

I own a number of priest / monk outfits that I use in my religious roleplay. The submissive is instructed in detail what she has to wear. Here is an example, from which I choose:

Hat, glasses, how to do hair, make-up, underwear, tights, what kind of skirt or dress, necklace, shirt/blouse, scarf, brooch, shoes.

Let’s describe a religious roleplay. Most porn sites will have a man in priests’ outfit with a mask and lady in a confession box. It seems that Mormon is a favourite theme. That is one of my scenarios. As an aside there is a very exciting clip, based on what the lady is wearing, but she ends up naked. Meaning, the beginning is more exciting than the end, for me.

Religious roleplay and female dress code scenario (just one of them):

After Sunday Mass one of the lady’s stays behind to have a chat with the priest. She offers helping out in the church. The priest asks her to come in for a further discussion.

So, what is the lady wearing, hair, make-up etc. (just one example):

·      Hair in a bun

·      Almost no make-up

·      Hat and glasses

·      A pleated knee-length skirt, in a modest colour

·      A blouse/shirt with long sleeves buttoned up

·      A brooch covering the top button

·      Matching tights

·      Kitten heel shoes

·      White or black underwear, cotton

·      A small hand-bag

He offers to show her around in the church and the rest of grounds and real-estate. When they are walking around, she sees a building he didn’t go to or talked about. She says, father, what’s that building. He looks at her and says, well that’s rented out and not really suitable for a virtuous lady like yourself. She pushes him and says, I’m a grown up. Show me. A bit of hesitation, then he says, ok.

They walk over, he opens the door and sees the shock on her face. It’s a full blown BDSM dungeon. Well father, that’s an unexpected pleasure she says. They go in, she says, I’ve always wanted to be handcuffed.

Before she knows it, she is bend over a cage, hand-cuffed, a spreader bar keeping her legs wide and her skirt lifted up. For the rest you will have to use your own imagination.

Now let’s analyse what I’ve seen on porn sites. They may have one or more of the following categories that should cater for me:

CFNM – Clothed Female, Naked Male

CMNF – Clothed Male, Naked Female

Uniform – covering a wide variety including but not limited to teacher, librarian, schoolgirl, police

Clothed sex – more often than not, silk/satin and golden shower

Do they cater for me?

When I said analyse, that means using the search bar and search engines to see what comes up.

So here is my analysis, which again, doesn’t judge if it’s right or wrong, it’s just missing things in my opinion. I actually had a conversation with some people in the adult entertainment industry and they were unanimous that people want to see nudeness in a porn movie. Which isn’t always what I want.

1)    The uniforms are more often than not the naughty kind

2)    The CFMN and CMNF always end up revealing more than I am looking for

3)    Clothed sex almost always ends up with a golden shower. I have no issue with the golden shower category, but it’s not always what I want

So, what do I want:

1)    The lady still fully dressed, prim & proper or the schoolgirl still in her uniform

2)    The man mainly dressed, but for me less important

3)    Almost no nudeness

4)    Cum on the clothes

If anybody has any links to porn sites that cater for the above, you will get my eternal thanks.